I don't want to be disappointed

Those words were spoken to me this week by someone who was waiting for a business deal to come through. They shared their dilemma  and I suggested they just "see the deal as done, visualizing what they want in their life."

Their response: "I'm a positive person but,  I can't. "I don't want to be disappointed. I don't want to get my hopes up."

I had nothing to say to them. I knew their mind was completely made up.
You see, they were protecting themselves from the pain of disappointment. Their motivation: FEAR.

The FEAR of disappointment was greater than their desire to get what they want.

They are not alone. Almost all of us have been trained from a young age to "Not get our hopes up." to "Not want too much. It was the way our parents or caretakers tried to shield us from disappointment. They were doing what they had learned from their parents and felt it was the best for us.

The question now is whether this belief serves us.

Ask yourself:  What would I rather do?

1) Visualiize what I want in my life believing that I'll get it. Reach for my dream, pushing fear aside and plunging forward with the actions I'm lead to take.  Trust that,  if I don't get what I want, it's because the universe has something much better in store for me. Believe in the best possible outcome.

2) Reach from my dreams,  visualizing the worst possible outcome, not getting my hopes up, so that I'm not disappointed.



Mari Mitchell Porter
Certified Life Coach
http://preparingapathtolove.com/

The waves of change

The waves of change

"Don't want to cause waves."  Someone said that to me the other day.. However. those who are extremely successful are so because they do cause waves.
Einstein, Martin Luther King, Oprah, President Lincoln, Columbus, Edison I could go on forever.

Each of these people had vision, a purpose and they pursued their beliefs, regardless of the cost.

Thomas Edison BELIEVED  he could discover a way to create light. He invented the light bulb in order to do this. It took him over 2000 different attempts before he found one that worked. That's dedication, persistence and most of all BELIEF in his dream.

I say, "Move towards your dreams and purpose and don't worry about causing waves."

For many it’s unnatural. We’re taught from infancy to sit down, be quiet, don’t upset mother, do what your teacher says, fit in with everyone else. After years of this type of brainwashing it’s not easy to step out and do something different, or innovative. We tend to fall back into the patterns we’ve always followed. We think that causing any waves would be disastrous, we might be engulfed by at tsunami. Maybe a tsunami is just what we need.

Changing anything in our lives requires we make a shift in our thinking and our behaving. We must step out and do something different, something perhaps we’ve never done before. It take courage. It takes determination.

We hear so often the phase “the sky’s the limit”. It’s spoken of in motivational materials. My belief is: The sky's not the limit, there is no limit except our own limited thinking.

We can do whatever we want to do. We can be whatever want to be and we can create success in any area of our lives as long as we’re willing to CHANGE, to do something different, to follow our own instincts.

If we truly want to accomplish something, we must believe that we can and we must be willing to make the changes necessary.

Mari Mitchell

Certified Life Coach

www.preparingapathtolove.com

mari@preparingapahtolove.com