Coffee is not that Serious

I was  at a local coffee shop writing and overheard an exchange between a very upset customer and the girl behind the counter. The customer was livid because she was charged more for the syrup and other extras she added to her drink. She argued over why she had to pay the extra. The employee calmly explained to her the cost of each extra item and that it was clearly posted on the menu board. The customer continued arguing, saying that no one told her it would be extra and they should have told her and it wasn’t right. When the store manager wouldn’t give into her she demanded a full refund and returned the drink. She upset herself, the employee and the cashier. As I watched her leave the store in a huff and with no coffee of course, I realized she was the most upset.

Really? Over a drink?

Coffee is not that serious. It’s coffee. It’s not global warming, world war, or even a car accident or personal assault. What was behind her anger? I have no idea. All I know is that on a beautiful, sunny Saturday morning, full of promise a woman decides to ruin her ability to enjoy the coffee she wanted over a $.64 charge.

Moral of the story. You can decide what your day will be like. You can decide what trivial things you allow to damper your mood or even your entire day. It’s in your power to move your attention from small things that irritate you and shift it to what you love, adore, enjoy and how wonderful life really is.

Have a great day, and remember you have the power to choose how great your day is or how miserable.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
954 243-7297

mari@lifecoachmari.com
http://lifecoachmari.com/

Dating advice: Changing your mindset

Most people in our society including me when I was dating, have put the focus on what you are doing, how you look, how you sound, what the opposite sex thinks of you. This is actually backwards.

The healthy way to think is: Is this person a good match for me?  Do they have the character traits I'm looking for in a mate? How do they treat me? How do they treat their family, friends, the waitress?

When we first meet someone that we are attracted to, the next step is to find out whether we want to see this person again (Go on a date). That's the ONLY next step.

Wondering whether they're "The one" is premature at that time. Even after several dates, wondering whether they're "The one" is STILL premature.This is our time to do our "Research" on this person. This is when we find out whether they're kind, loving, trustworthy, and have all the traits we require to be in relationship with them. Our only goal must be to get to know them better and to carefully observe their behavior with us and with others. When we're looking for a long term relationship, our thoughts will naturally go to: are they "The One".But we must gently put those thoughts aside and be "In the moment" enjoying our time with them and continuing our "Research". 

As we meet people, get to know them and date them we might be disappointed, rejected, discouraged. This is normal because not every person we meet is "The ONE". That's why they're called the ONE, not the MANY. 

It's important to acknowledge our disappointment, discouragement maybe even anger then realize that obviously this person was not for us and say NEXT in our mind. That frees us to go out there again and meet the next person until we find THE ONE.

When you meet people keep you focus on how YOU feel, if YOU like them, if YOU find them attractive, if YOU are enjoying the conversation with them. Don't worry about if THEY like you. If THEY approve of you, etc. This will give you a peace of mind and heart unlike anything you've ever know. By the way, you can use this mindset in any inter-personal relationships with a boss, parent, friend, even at a meeting.

Keeping the focus on YOU gives you the power, courage, strength and draws the right people to you.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
954 243-7297

mari@lifecoachmari.com
http://lifecoachmari.com/

It's Your Choice TODAY

"Every morning when you wake up you are literally being born anew and afresh. Every day there are new things on your mind, people to meet, things to do. As you wake up and start your day, you need not think of the past and remember mistakes; instead focus upon the future and what you will create." From "Living with Joy" by Sanaya Roman.

As you wake up each morning you can set a good mood for the day.
How you may ask?
By focusing your thoughts on what new, exciting things you can look forward to this day.
For example:
Projects you want to start.
New people you wish to meet.
Setting goals for yourself.
You can also set a bad mood by focusing on the mistakes you've made, the things that have gone wrong, or negative words people have spoken. Rehashing the unpleasant, the embarrassing, the pain and rejection much like a cow regurgitating food.
Will you have a bad day or a good day? It's your choice.
If early in your day you accept that this is a brand new day, the past is over and all you have control over is your present and future, then anything is possible for you TODAY.
Keep you mind on the good, keep your thoughts hopeful, let negative comments run off your back like water down a slide. Expand your possibilities, plan for success. Take small steps that will take you towards your dreams.
It's your choice. TODAY.
I hope you make it a great one.
Actions steps:

1.      Early in the morning or sometime during the day make a list of anything that is troubling you.

2.      Set aside some time right then, or later if necessary, to brainstorm three things you could do to solve the issue or problem.

3.      Make a commitment to yourself to do one of the three things on your list within 24 hours.

4.      Now turn your thoughts to the good things in your life. What you love, enjoy, appreciate, what makes you happy.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Life Coach
954 243-7297   http://lifecoachmari.com/
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