Focus on Love

These precious babies and wonderful educators lost their lives because two lost souls chose to destroy other people in order to get our attention. They have gotten our attention and our facebook walls display anger, rage, despair, fear, hopelessness.

I have decided to focus my attention on sending love to the families who lost their loved ones in this tragedy including the family of the one shooter who also died. May they feel loved and supported in this time of loss and grief.

Love can conquer darkness when no legislation can. Love can overcome all things. If only the shooters  had known they were truly and fully loved, this tragedy  may have never occurred. If only they had known how to love themselves. Let this be a reminder for us to love ourselves, our families and everyone we come into contact with. May love shine brightly thus overcoming the darkness.

I will be sending Condolence’s cards to Sandy Hook Elementary for each of the victim’s family’s. If you want to join me in this effort here is the address: 12 Dickinson Drive, Sandy Hook CT 06482.

Thanksgiving

Appreciation takes being in the NOW, leaving the past behind, forgetting about tomorrow.

What’s great about your life right NOW?

What beauty surrounds you?

Who's loving eyes do you behold?

What’s right with your life TODAY in this instant?

What’s music to your ears?

What makes your heart sing?

Who adores you?

Who makes your heart swell with love?

RIGHT NOW, RIGHT HERE, TODAY.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING and may your heart overflow with appreciation today and every day.

I thank each one of you for enriching my life, for the love I feel from you and for the joy you bring to me.

Mari

Releasing Worry

Worry is like a black cloud bogging me down, clouding my mind, keeping me prisoner to what I don’t’ want. As I let go, the black cloud rises, leaving me feeling lighter, carefree and ready for all goodness to engulf me fully. I’m glad to be alive and part of this wonderful Universe filled with all I want and desire. I embrace the good, the miracles that are evident in my life and I keep that black cloud away by maintaining my focus on the best always.

You Deserve Abundance

Abundance is not deserved or earned. It is already part of you. - Mari Mitchell Porter

What are you excuses for not having abundance? 

Because you don't have a degree?
Because  you do what you love and it's not really possible make money doing what you love?
Because you  hear others say how hard they work for their money?
Because you don't believe you make a good living at what you do?
Becaue the economy is bad?
Because others tell you you're not working hard enough?
Because your family doesn't come from money?

The truth is: You ARE worthy of all abundance just because you exist.
It's yours for the taking. You don't have to do anything to PROVE you deserve abundance.
You don't have to do anything or everything perfectly.
You don't have to suffer.
You don't have to wait.
You don't have to be patient.

Abundance is yours because you exist, because you want it and Source is offering it to you.

But, to receive this abundance you must truly believe it's yours for the taking and that requires a change in your belief system. You haven't allowed abundance into your life because of false beliefs. Because you haven't felt deserving of it. Because you refuse to believe how loved, adored, cherised and wanted you really are.

Abundance is here for you. Just open yourself to receive the abundance that is already yours. 
Just open up to it and watch abundance like you've never know before or imagined come into your life..

Mari

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
954 243-7297

mari@lifecoachmari.com
http://lifecoachmari.com
http://www.lifecoachmari.blogspot.com/

Coffee is not that Serious

I was  at a local coffee shop writing and overheard an exchange between a very upset customer and the girl behind the counter. The customer was livid because she was charged more for the syrup and other extras she added to her drink. She argued over why she had to pay the extra. The employee calmly explained to her the cost of each extra item and that it was clearly posted on the menu board. The customer continued arguing, saying that no one told her it would be extra and they should have told her and it wasn’t right. When the store manager wouldn’t give into her she demanded a full refund and returned the drink. She upset herself, the employee and the cashier. As I watched her leave the store in a huff and with no coffee of course, I realized she was the most upset.

Really? Over a drink?

Coffee is not that serious. It’s coffee. It’s not global warming, world war, or even a car accident or personal assault. What was behind her anger? I have no idea. All I know is that on a beautiful, sunny Saturday morning, full of promise a woman decides to ruin her ability to enjoy the coffee she wanted over a $.64 charge.

Moral of the story. You can decide what your day will be like. You can decide what trivial things you allow to damper your mood or even your entire day. It’s in your power to move your attention from small things that irritate you and shift it to what you love, adore, enjoy and how wonderful life really is.

Have a great day, and remember you have the power to choose how great your day is or how miserable.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
954 243-7297

mari@lifecoachmari.com
http://lifecoachmari.com/

Dating advice: Changing your mindset

Most people in our society including me when I was dating, have put the focus on what you are doing, how you look, how you sound, what the opposite sex thinks of you. This is actually backwards.

The healthy way to think is: Is this person a good match for me?  Do they have the character traits I'm looking for in a mate? How do they treat me? How do they treat their family, friends, the waitress?

When we first meet someone that we are attracted to, the next step is to find out whether we want to see this person again (Go on a date). That's the ONLY next step.

Wondering whether they're "The one" is premature at that time. Even after several dates, wondering whether they're "The one" is STILL premature.This is our time to do our "Research" on this person. This is when we find out whether they're kind, loving, trustworthy, and have all the traits we require to be in relationship with them. Our only goal must be to get to know them better and to carefully observe their behavior with us and with others. When we're looking for a long term relationship, our thoughts will naturally go to: are they "The One".But we must gently put those thoughts aside and be "In the moment" enjoying our time with them and continuing our "Research". 

As we meet people, get to know them and date them we might be disappointed, rejected, discouraged. This is normal because not every person we meet is "The ONE". That's why they're called the ONE, not the MANY. 

It's important to acknowledge our disappointment, discouragement maybe even anger then realize that obviously this person was not for us and say NEXT in our mind. That frees us to go out there again and meet the next person until we find THE ONE.

When you meet people keep you focus on how YOU feel, if YOU like them, if YOU find them attractive, if YOU are enjoying the conversation with them. Don't worry about if THEY like you. If THEY approve of you, etc. This will give you a peace of mind and heart unlike anything you've ever know. By the way, you can use this mindset in any inter-personal relationships with a boss, parent, friend, even at a meeting.

Keeping the focus on YOU gives you the power, courage, strength and draws the right people to you.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
954 243-7297

mari@lifecoachmari.com
http://lifecoachmari.com/

It's Your Choice TODAY

"Every morning when you wake up you are literally being born anew and afresh. Every day there are new things on your mind, people to meet, things to do. As you wake up and start your day, you need not think of the past and remember mistakes; instead focus upon the future and what you will create." From "Living with Joy" by Sanaya Roman.

As you wake up each morning you can set a good mood for the day.
How you may ask?
By focusing your thoughts on what new, exciting things you can look forward to this day.
For example:
Projects you want to start.
New people you wish to meet.
Setting goals for yourself.
You can also set a bad mood by focusing on the mistakes you've made, the things that have gone wrong, or negative words people have spoken. Rehashing the unpleasant, the embarrassing, the pain and rejection much like a cow regurgitating food.
Will you have a bad day or a good day? It's your choice.
If early in your day you accept that this is a brand new day, the past is over and all you have control over is your present and future, then anything is possible for you TODAY.
Keep you mind on the good, keep your thoughts hopeful, let negative comments run off your back like water down a slide. Expand your possibilities, plan for success. Take small steps that will take you towards your dreams.
It's your choice. TODAY.
I hope you make it a great one.
Actions steps:

1.      Early in the morning or sometime during the day make a list of anything that is troubling you.

2.      Set aside some time right then, or later if necessary, to brainstorm three things you could do to solve the issue or problem.

3.      Make a commitment to yourself to do one of the three things on your list within 24 hours.

4.      Now turn your thoughts to the good things in your life. What you love, enjoy, appreciate, what makes you happy.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Life Coach
954 243-7297   http://lifecoachmari.com/
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