Those words were spoken to me this week by someone who was waiting for a business deal to come through. They shared their dilemma and I suggested they just "see the deal as done, visualizing what they want in their life."
Their response: "I'm a positive person but, I can't. "I don't want to be disappointed. I don't want to get my hopes up."
I had nothing to say to them. I knew their mind was completely made up.
You see, they were protecting themselves from the pain of disappointment. Their motivation: FEAR.
The FEAR of disappointment was greater than their desire to get what they want.
They are not alone. Almost all of us have been trained from a young age to "Not get our hopes up." to "Not want too much. It was the way our parents or caretakers tried to shield us from disappointment. They were doing what they had learned from their parents and felt it was the best for us.
The question now is whether this belief serves us.
Ask yourself: What would I rather do?
1) Visualiize what I want in my life believing that I'll get it. Reach for my dream, pushing fear aside and plunging forward with the actions I'm lead to take. Trust that, if I don't get what I want, it's because the universe has something much better in store for me. Believe in the best possible outcome.
2) Reach from my dreams, visualizing the worst possible outcome, not getting my hopes up, so that I'm not disappointed.
Mari Mitchell Porter
Certified Life Coach
http://preparingapathtolove.com/
